For people with heart disease or some other major illness, the initial diagnosis may be a shock. You may wonder, “How did I get this?” or “Why me?” Many of us ask these questions. Some of us go on for days, months, and years wallowing in self pity.
It’s not easy to see the bright side of a bad situation, but we should do all that we can to stay positive – even when a diagnosis seems grim. Why should we stay positive? Because a positive attitude is the secret to a rapid recovery.
How many times have you heard someone say, “She’s lost the will to live.” Sure enough, in a short time frame, that person either dies or becomes sicker. Studies have shown that the mind is so powerful, it can actually contribute to a person’s illness. The mind is also so powerful, that it can contribute to a person’s health.
Think about depression for a moment. I remember that time in my life very clearly. I literally stopped functioning. It was difficult to get out of bed in the morning. I lost my appetite and lost weight I didn’t want to lose. I couldn’t do simple tasks around the house, like cooking or cleaning, and I couldn’t concentrate at work. All that ran through my mind was fear about what would happen in the future or anxiety of what happened in the past. Sometimes medication and counseling helps, and sometimes you need to change some circumstances in your life before you can step out of the muck of negative thinking.
So, how do we get ourselves out of the cycle of negativity? One way is to remember we always have a choice. We don’t have to be stuck in a bad situation for the rest of our lives. Try to remember that life is like a roller coaster. Sometimes circumstances are headed upward and other times they are plunging down at 60 m.p.h.
If you are having a hard time thinking about the choices you have available to you, here are some suggestions:
– Don’t deny your feelings by going on as if nothing has happened to you. If you had a heart attack or triple bypass surgery, say to yourself, “Okay, I just took a dip on the roller coaster of life. Now where do I go from here?”
– Seek the advice of medical professionals and family members. If you are unhappy with your current doctor, get a second opinion or change doctors.
– If your life isn’t in immediate danger, give yourself a day or two to think about your options. Do you need surgery or can your condition be managed with medication? Take some time to be alone or spend time with family discussing the options without outside distractions.
– Write down your thoughts. If you’ve just learned that you have heart disease and the doctors are throwing terms at you that you don’t understand, write them down and look them up on the Internet or ask for an explanation.
– If you are too emotional and can’t remember what the doctor is telling you, ask a relative or friend to accompany you to your appointment or take a tape recorder and record the conversation.
When I know I have choices, I feel more in control of my life. I know how easy it is to panic. Your mind starts racing through the worst possible scenarios. But when you get a devastating diagnosis, try to remember to breathe. Then ask yourself, “What are my choices?” It just might give you a little more peace of mind. And, with peace of mind comes a more positive attitude and a quicker recovery.