By contentment, supreme joy is gained. Those are the words that describe Samtosha, one of the Niyamas in the Yoga Sutras. I like contentment. It means to be happy with things as they are and not look to persons, places or things outside of use to be happy. Who wouldn’t want supreme joy? And yet, the ego has a way of sneaking into our minds.
Wouldn’t it be great to have a wonderful relationship with that special someone? I would be so happy if only… My friends are going on vacation to the desert. They invited me to come along, but I have this other commitment. Maybe I should change my plans. If I don’t go now, when will I get another chance like this? We would have so much fun… I’ve always wanted a brand new Jaguar and I can’t believe my eyes. I just inherited $50,000. I’m behind in my rent and have tons of bills. This inheritance can get me out of debt and back on my feet. Screw it. Jaguar here I come…
I’m not suggesting that we can’t enjoy the finer things in life. But contentment tells us to go within. Find what makes us happy on the inside. And, be okay if we find that special someone, have the opportunity for a desert vacation, or buy a new car. But also, find that happiness inside even if we just broke up with that special someone, have to cancel that long awaited vacation, or have to ride a used bicycle for transportation. What happens on the outside doesn’t affect our happiness.
So how can we find that even keel of contentment? Ester Hicks has a couple of beautiful quote that might point the way.
“Let your alignment (with Well-Being) be first and foremost, and let everything else be secondary. And not only will you have an eternally joyous journey, but everything you have ever imagined will flow effortlessly into your experience. There is nothing you cannot be or do or have—but your dominant intent is to be joyful. The doing and the having will come into alignment once you get that one down.”
“While it does, and should, feel good to be appreciated by another person, if you are dependent upon their appreciation to feel good, you will not be able to consistently feel good, because no other person has the ability, or a responsibility, to hold you as their singular, positive object of attention. Your Inner Being, however, the Source within you, always holds you, with no exceptions, as a constant object of appreciation. So if you will tune your thoughts and actions to that consistent Vibration of Well-Being flowing forth from your Inner Being—you will thrive under any and all conditions.”
So go within. Think positively about your circumstances, whatever they are. Be grateful and appreciative for what you have and for what you don’t have.